What if I've always been good enough in my skin?


Cardigan - Gina Tricot // Dress - Object // Pants - F21 // Rings - Tom Wood // Shoes - DinSko 

People who haven't met me always think I'm a tall, tall girl. I'm not. I'm quite average, maybe even below the norm. But sometimes I think I'm 5'8, and therefore I act like I am. Especially in my pictures. It's just me and my camera and sometimes a few furry friends - and I can be whom ever I want to be. That, for me, is the beauty of blogging.

I, for instance, have always felt like my height was holding me back - which is ironic, since everyone thinks I'm super tall. I've always wanted to soar above the crowd like a bird, or like one of the majestic supermodels of the world - but as I've gotten older, I've realized I should be spending my time and energy on other things. Like, not holding myself back because of my own complexes. And there's a lot of them. Whether it be that enormous zit on my cheek, scars from battles I've fought earlier in my life or that emotional baggage I carry with me. Because we all have those things in our lives. We're broke and depressed and starving and imperfect and stressed. All of us. In one way or another.

There are days I feel like the ugliest person alive and days I feel like I can conquer the world. What if I can take on the world, just the way I am? With the little I have - or all that I've got? What if, like Maria Mena says in one of her beautiful songs; I've always been good enough in my skin?

Is it just me, or do we need to stop focusing on what we aren't, and focus on what we are? On what we can become or perhaps even what we already have become?

13 comments:

  1. Wise words!! i too have a lot of height complexes.I have always been the tyniest on the class. but as days go buy i worry less and less about those things and feel more confortable with who and what i am :-) and by the way, love the simple outfit ^^

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    1. Thank you for sharing that with me! Human psychology is so complex. I wish there was some easy fixes, but sadly there isn't. The sad thing is that we should be proud of who we are, no matter what height or weight or size we are. Why is it so freakin' hard?

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  2. wow you are very beautiful! <3
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  3. I've always found your posts so honest. I love it!

    As a side note, you should start including your lip color in these posts! Whenever I see your lip color, I always want to know what it is :)

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    1. Thank you very much for saying that, I truly appreciate it! Honesty is the best medicine!

      I will include lip color from here on out! Thanks for the suggestion! I always forget that!

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    2. And by the way: this is just a red lip-stain from a local marked!

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  4. Cute outfit! Love those boots!
    I agree with your last statement. We all need to accept for who we are. Don't worry about your height, your beauty makes up for it. :)

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    1. Thanks, lovely Heidi! I'm very liberal and great at accepting everyone else, except for myself. It's stupid!

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  5. Very interesting points u make here - and btw I am one of those people who thought u'd be super tall, just because u're norwegian, yeah I know, talk about clicheeing things, sorry - and I do have to agree with u in all of them. We all have baggage with us, and we all should focus on what we are rather than what we are not. But there's another point to this I'd like to bring up: waht about the way others perceive us? I find it mindblowing to read you have days when you find yourself the ugliest person alive. Because I don't know you - as a person - I take this to the physical side of things, and am amazed at how someone whom I consider to be one of the most beautiful individuals I have ever seen - I mean pysichally, again - can look at herself in a mirror and find the reflection there to be ugly. The only reason that comes to my mind is that what you see when you look at yourself in a mirror and are faced with your reflection goes way further and beyond your physical being. When I see your pictures, all I see IS your physical being. SO we are glancing at different people, but wich one opf us is right? When each of us looks at herself in the mirror and finds that image lacking, isn't it that when we see ourselves we see our physical being but we also see our inner self, the person who we believe we are, and somedays we are simply not satisfied at who we are? hmm, thanx for giving me food for thought, actually.
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    1. Haha, don't worry - your not alone! I once was asked to model for a photographer and when I showed up she was like: wtf?

      Perception is very tricky! The reflection in my mirror does indeed go beyond my face, and even though I know I'm a good person down to the core, there are things that make me want to smash the mirror in anger and agony. We all have issues; whether it is about how we look or how we feel. But, we don't talk about our issues with strangers.

      On blogs, we get to choose what we share and in some degree; how we are perceived. It's almost like life-photoshop. I don't post pictures of me laying in bed till noon or when my face is covered in acne. I don't want to. It's the ugly truth. But I wish I had the guts to do it, because we all could use a little more realness!

      Glad you found my post interesting! Thank you for commenting!

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  6. Your Gina Tricot cardigan is pretty. You seem/are remarkably together despite any complexes you have shared about or might have. I love the colour of your beautifully applied lipstick and your hair is gorgeous!

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    1. Thank you! It's like what I wrote in the comment above: perception is a tricky thing!

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